Hey,can we talk!

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A year ago a young girl( Ivy) was laid to rest,killed by  young man( Kinuthia). How sad!

 We may call it crimes of passion,matters of the heart,slay queens problem or even demonic.
The truth is we  lost both of them,one  died the other one might spend the rest of his life in jail. What can we equate to human life? Money or time?I can imagine how humilated Kinuthia dad was as he was asking for forgiveness on behalf of his son. Two families mourned ,Ivy family and Kinuthia family,two fathers  mourned, one cannot believe her daughter is dead the other cannot believe his son is murderer,two mothers mourned one cannot believe a fruit of her womb was killed,the other one cannot believe  fruit of her womb was a killer. So are they the blame as the parents? Or is Ivy and Kinuthia entirely the blame? Or who is the blame?

Before we point out fingers,We are all victims,either we are parents or parents to be, married,in a relationship or looking forward to be in one.One thing we must admit as a society is we have missed somewhere, this is a national disaster just like drought facing Turkana, covid  19,police brutality and poverty

When we  were growing up i remember everyday at around 4pm or 5pm my brothers would prepare and leave and join the rest of young men  in our village,villagers can relate right! Engage in a sport activity,talk and comeback late,what they were talking about i dont know but i believe it was man talk.
In our home,my parents( May they rest in peace) were providing 4kg of maize flour most of the times(2kg lunch,2kg supper) because they were sure we must have visitors,guess who these guests were-men, my brothers agemates, who were coming for home made gym.
What am i saying, villagers were one, our men could talk and talk and out of that we didnt face such kind of  issues.Up to today,we have a village whatsap and facebook group and once in a blue moon we checks  on each other.

We can borrow that, if kinuthia spoke with a fellow man before he reached  Eldoret,he wouldnt have committed the crime.
As a society can we bring back the culture of authentic conversations. Let our men pass value to our young men and our women to the young women.
Who are the youths looking upto? What are our media broadcasting? And when they read your facebook updates which message do they get?

And since we are so quick to forget as a nation ,lest we forget those who lost their lives in the same way- Jamal the actor, Sharon Otieno,Monica Kimani and many others not forgetting Mwende whose hands were chopped off.
#Canwetalk
#reflectionswithAgatha
#villager
#publicdiarieswithAgatha
 Heart to heart,
Agatha M.

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